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Using Emotional Abuse

  • Putting the other down
  • Making the other feel bad about themselves<
  • Calling the other names
  • Making the other think they are crazy
  • Playing mind games
  • Humiliating the other
  • Making the other feel guilty

Using Economic Abuse

  • Preventing the other from getting or keeping a job
  • Making the other ask for money
  • Giving the other an allowance
  • Taking the other's money
  • Not letting the other know about or have access to family income

Using Intimidation

  • Making the other afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
  • Smashing things
  • Abusing pets
  • Displaying weapons

Using Isolation

  • Controlling what the other does, who they see and talk to, what's read, and where they go
  • Limiting their outside involvement
  • Using jealousy to justify actions

Using Privileges

  • Treating the other like a servant
  • Making all the big decisions
  • Acting like the master of the castle
  • Being the one who determines the roles

Using Coercion and Threats

  • Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt the other
  • Threatening to leave the other, to commit suicide, report the other to Immigration
  • Making the other drop charges
  • Making the other do illegal things

Using Children

  • Making the other feel guilty about the children
  • Using the children to relay messages
  • Using visitation to harass the other
  • Threatening to take the children away

Minimising, Denying, Blaming

  • Making light of the abuse and not taking the other's concerns about it seriously
  • Saying the abuse never happened
  • Shifting responsibility for abusive behaviour
  • Saying the other caused it

Source: Caribbean Training Manual on Domestic Violence Intervention: Training Programme for Police Officers and other Front Line Professionals

Last Updated: 2005-03-07